Change is inevitable! Change can be a good thing, especially when you are the one creating that change. Change promotes growth and at times maturity. However, change can bring about stress, anxiety, anger, and confusion. This tends to happen when you allow someone else to make a change in your life (due to indecisiveness or unwillingness), or when it just happens because life is like that at times. Whether good or bad, it is the way we handle that change that matters.
Recently, a close nephew of mine sprang a bit of change in my direction (the kind that brought forth anger). He was my first close nephew that I used to babysit, play with, and get after (he used to destroy my room). I remember the times we would go for walks, point out new and interesting things outside, chasing him, doing the Elmo chicken dance, and calling him my little Fraggle Rock. I would be by his side when he was sick, when he was promoted to the next grade, when he needed me to take him somewhere, and just simply give him a hug! So, what exactly did he do, you might ask? He got a girlfriend! You may think that this is a nothing sort of thing, and for most people it is, but for me…it is nicht gut.
Now I don’t actually care about all that (to a degree), but as long as I don’t see her I am okay. Out of sight, out of mind (you don’t exist to me). For those who actually know me, I am a pretty selfish when it comes to people. I am over protective, suspicious, and stubborn. Not the best qualities to have, but at times they do come in handy. The change that I am referring to at this particular time is the fact that he brought his girlfriend around! All I could do was stare…at him! Not her…she doesn’t exist remember! I know that dating and becoming friendly is inevitable, but in my mind he is “MY” nephew, and her little bitty hands are touching him! At that time I acted like a pitbull when someone entered its territory! Is it godly of me to act as such…no! Did I want to justify my actions…yes! After all he is mine first! A bit childish indeed, but at the moment I didn’t care!
As I reflect on today’s inevitable change, I realize that my actions indeed were petty. I recognize the fact that he is growing up to be a man, and a handsome one at that. In the end, I went up to my handsome nephew and apologized to him, and told him that I wasn’t quite ready to say hi. God has a plan for my nephew, and it isn’t actually the way I think it should be. In Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” His plans/thoughts are perfect, and mine are not! Pray for me as my own children grow up and have interest in the opposite sex. This was definitely a tough one for me, but I know ultimately my nephew is in God’s hands! We all have different struggles with change, and may see other’s struggle as a no brainer, but God made us all different! What are some changes that recently happened in your life that has you flustered? Do you trust Christ to take care of it, and help you through it? GBY and have an amazing day!
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